Personal Growth

My path is like nobody. There are some similarities in life but I write my own past, present and future. I think its a biological need that makes us want to relate to others, to group together. Whether it be with friends, family or a boyfriend we are always looking for that "you are just like me/I'm just like you" factor when determining how close you want to be with someone and if they are "worthy". Due to this fact we tend to forget that we are the only one who makes us what we are.

Just because a friend or a sister or coworker had a bad experience or good experience, we pre -judge that activity or risk because "they are just like me so if they couldn't make it work than neither can I". Once in a while its good to take a step back and understand we are each individuals. Although we may share traits or experiences with one another it does not mean we succeed or fail based on someone else's trial and tribulations.

Our success and failure does not come from anywhere but in our minds and our determination to make something work. You have to have the fight deep down to be willing to make it happen, whatever it may be, regardless of the obstacles in the way.

A simple example of this I recently realized is with running. I have always been that girl that's not a runner. Ever since I was little, I would run around doing activities such as sports or playing tag but convinced myself I wasn't a runner and that I didn't need to run even if I wanted to. Buttt I was convinced to do a 3.5mile race with my company and came to realize that it was all in my head. All I had to do was tell myself that I could do it and I could. This compounded with recent stresses that helped me truly value the stress relief that running provides.

Learning to enjoy running isn't the point of it all. But merely a reaction to a realization. There are many risks in life and chances to take, each decision can have similar outcomes to others but only your own perseverance can make it what it should be. If you don't succeed at something it is not because "so and so" told you it wouldn't, just like them, it is because you didn't work hard enough and believe in yourself to succeed. My path is my own and I will get to make it what I want.