I have had a lot on my mind lately. Last week was a bit of a crappy one and ended with me shelling out $400 on new wheel bearings for my car. Needless to say I was upset because I hadn't really planned on such a large expense and just about broke down in tears at the shop.
This was just my luck last week.... I was run thin on sleep, thanks to my brain being in overdrive and my bladder as well, and hadn't made it through a full night with out waking up from nightmares or having to pee. This obviously did not help my emotional state and made me a bit on the edgy side.
With plans to drive 4 hours to see friends I haven't seen in years my car of course decided enough was enough and I had to take it to the shop hoping it would only take 2 hours or so. My guesstimated 2 hours was of course wrong and I was stranded at the shop for 3.5 almost 4 hours.
Regardless of my edgy mood my amazing boyfriend still talked with me and made me feel twenty times better. I was especially thankful for him when he called me back while I was stranded at the shop for 3 hours. He isn't the super romantic, shower me with gifts, mushy type boyfriend which is perfect for me because those things can make me suuuppppeeerrrr awkward. Yet, he's really good at being there for me and having those make you smile, I will remember this forever, I love you moments that mean so much more.
Which pulls me into my next thought. Anybody that knows me knows I cannot sit for 3.5hours and not talk to anybody thanks to my ADHD. So of course I decided to make friends with the girl behind the counter who just turned 21 and was also bored sitting behind the counter on a warm sunny Saturday. The combination of both our desires to be else where with that of normal stranger chit chat got us on the subject of my long distance relationship.
When she heard that I lived in MA and my boyfriend lived in WI she was fairly shocked as most people are when we tell them. Her questions and responses where for the most part similar to what everyone else asks "Isn't that hard?", "I can't stand going a couple days without seeing my boyfriend?", "How do you make it work?", "Do you get to see each other often?", " I don't think I could do it." and of course "How did you meet?"...
Answering these questions has become a well rehearsed speech. Yes its hard. Yes we miss each other all the time, but we see each other every month alternating who travels. I have gotten used to the strange looks and those who doubt the true strength of our relationship, but to those haters I have to let you in on a little secret.
My boyfriend and I may not get to see each other that often but I can bet we talk more than your average couple who lives in the same zip code. When I say talk I don't mean everyday ramble but honest conversation. For many months our conversations was the fertilizer to our relationship. Instead of developing a relationship based on physical characteristics it grew out of an emotional connection forged by phone calls, texting and facebook messages.
I recently read an article online that I agree with 100%. It listed 10 reasons why long distance relationships CAN work and are amazing. My personal favorite reason is number 10."A long-distance romance allows you to strengthen your commitment to your partner ... or not. It's a great way to figure out how much you mean to each other." This reason is so true. As a couple we don't really fight, like gloves off in the ring, but when we bicker it always comes back to I am mad because I miss you. Being away from each other is almost painful and only too often there are those moments when you reach over to hold a hand or try to snuggle up next to them and they aren't there.
I will be honest. It sucks and its really hard and I wouldn't do it for anybody else. I know that we can make it work because we are amazing together and I would be completely lost without him.
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